Student, 18, killed herself by stepping into the path of cars after being dumped by her ‘controlling’ boyfriend

Being dumped can leave one feeling lower than toilet paper, but you know what? That feeling ALWAYS eventually goes away. It might leave you with a dull ache or even wondering what you ever saw in the person, but it does go away. All you need is patience, positive reinforcement from family and close friends, an active life and who knows, you might even come to meet someone you will cherish even more.

There is also the real possibility of a reconciliation after the break up. You never know what you have until you lose it remember? But when a suicide is involved as in this case, the other party is forced to move on. Some might carry you on their conscience. Most probably wont.

My heart goes out to her family.

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  • Lena Begum  wandered around the M65 for up to two hours before van hit
  • The dental  student, from Burnley, had been out earlier with friends
  • She told  them she was sad her boyfriend, Quzlam Ahmed, didn’t love her
  • They  dropped her near the M65 as she said she was off to visit a  friend
  • A motorist  saw her walking down the slip road talking into her phone
  • Lena walked  in front of a van driven by deliveryman John Trainer, 48
  • Coroner  Mark Williams recorded a verdict of suicide

By Harriet Arkell

A teenage girl who was dumped by her  ‘controlling’ boyfriend committed suicide by deliberately stepping into the path  of traffic on a dark motorway, an inquest heard.

Lena Begum, 18, had been wandering around the  three lane carriageway for up to two hours during which she recorded a 3am  voicemail message for Quzlam Ahmed saying: ‘You will probably love me one day  the way I loved you, but it will be too late.’

Minutes later the dental student was killed  after walking in front of a van travelling at almost 60mph along the inside lane  of the M65 near her home in Burnley, Lancashire.

Lena Begum, 18, died when she walked into the path of a van on an unlit motorway because she was upset by a boyfriend who 'treated her very poorly', a coroner said

Lena Begum, 18, died when she walked into the path of a  van on an unlit motorway because she was upset by a boyfriend who ‘treated her  very poorly’, a coroner said

The inquest heard that the driver, John  Trainer, was unable to spot Lena until it was too late because the street lights  on  the motorway had been switched off by highway chiefs to cut  costs.

Lena, who studied at Blackburn College, had  met Mr Ahmed, known as ‘Kammy’,  in October 2012, but he had been ‘controlling’ and  treating her ‘poorly’, it emerged at the hearing.

Her parents – from a traditional Bengali  family – became concerned about  the relationship and had reported Lena missing  several times from the  family home in Reedley.

After Mr Ahmed hit her on her 18th  birthday  and told her he had no longer wanted a relationship, Lena  threatened to  self-harm, claiming she was ‘not afraid of dying’ and that ‘death held no fear  for her’.

Lena’s friend, Taslena Alam, told the Burnley  hearing how the teenager was  ‘mentally obsessed’ and ‘crazy’ about Ahmed, and  had even etched the  name ‘Kammy’ into her arm.

She said Lena would ‘drop everything’ to meet  Mr Ahmed whenever he called, and as the relationship developed she went from  being ‘happy and fun’ to  ‘depressed’.

In a statement, she said Lena had told her  she would ‘go onto a motorway and get herself run over.’

Miss Alam said: ‘I kept telling her to stop  seeing him but she didn’t listen.’

Lena Begum, 18, died after she walked in front of a van on a motorway in the middle of the night

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Lena, a dental student from Burnley, had been in a relationship with a man who 'treated her very poorly', the coroner said

Lena was upset about her relationship with a boyfriend  who ‘treated her very poorly’, the coroner said
Lena's mother Selina Begum, pictured above, tried calling her daughter 16 times in the hours before she died

Lena’s mother Selina Begum, pictured above, tried  calling her daughter 16 times in the hours before she died

On the night of the tragedy on April 10 last  year, Miss Alam said she and  Lena had been at the home of a friend Marcia Khan  before heading to a  shisha bar, where guests smoke flavoured tobacco in  pipes.

Afterwards Lena asked to be dropped  off on a  road near the motorway. Miss Alam said: ‘All I remember is her  going up some  stairs, she seemed happy. She wasn’t saying about hurting  herself, she never  said anything.’

Miss Khan said during the evening Lena had  confided in her about her romance with Ahmed. She said: ‘Lena was saying how he  didn’t love her and she  just wanted him to love her, that she does everything  for him and he  doesn’t do anything.

‘She was being quiet – before that  conversation she was happy and bubbly. I’d heard a few things that she  had  tried doing things in the past but didn’t believe that she had the  ability.’

She said at the  end of the evening, Lena  had, ‘walked up the stairs, turned around and  smiled’. She added: ‘I smiled  back.That was the last time I saw her.

‘She said she wanted to see her friend, and  made it sound so realistic.’

But half an hour later Lena was spotted  walking down the motorway slip road and into oncoming traffic, recording  messages to loved ones as she held her mobile phone.

Deliveryman John Trainer said he could not see Lena until it was too late because the road lights were off

Deliveryman John Trainer said he could not see Lena  until it was too late because the road lights were off

Scene: The inquest heard that Lena spent up to two hours wandering around the motorway before she died

Scene: The inquest heard that Lena spent up to two hours  wandering around the motorway before she died
Tailbacks: Lena was hit by the van shortly before 4am on Wednesday 10 April last year when the road was dark

Tailbacks: Lena was hit by the van shortly before 4am on  Wednesday 10 April last year when the road was dark

Driver Michelle Harris, who was coming off  the motorway, said: ‘She was not  dawdling, not staggering and appeared to be  doing something with her  mobile phone, holding it up with both hands at chest  level.

‘I thought she was texting. I slowed  and  came to a stop and looked in my mirror and couldn’t see her. I  thought she  could have broken down.’

The inquest heard that deliveryman John  Trainer, 48, was driving his  Mercedes Sprinter van in the inside lane of the  motorway at 3.50am when  Lena walked in front of him.

His statement read: ‘There was no lighting,  the area was pitch black.  For a split second I caught a glimpse of a person who  was walking across from lane two, almost at the line divider.

‘I pressed the brakes as hard as I could, I  swerved to avoid. She didn’t  even look towards me, she just continued to walk  across. I couldn’t  avoid the collision.

‘I don’t believe I could have done anything  to avoid her, I do believe if  there were motorway lights I would have seen her  sooner and slowed down a lot sooner.’

Lena was  pronounced dead at the scene  despite attempts to save her. Records  showed she had spoken to Ahmed twice on  the phone for around 30 minutes.

At 2.05 am she posted a picture to Facebook  and Twitter, and earlier in the evening posted messages on social networking  sites.

Twitter feed: Lena left messages for her friends and family on social media before she stepped in front of a van

Twitter feed: Lena left messages for her friends and  family on social media before she stepped in front of a van

One read: ‘I just wana say a big thank you ta  all my true mates that have been there for me & my family, love ya loads.’

The other said: ‘Only thing that I would want  from ya is ta remember me please more than anything else.’

Mr Ahmed, who did not attend the inquest,  said in a statement he had last seen Lena four days before her death and had  changed his number because she was ‘pestering’ him.

He confirmed he had spoken to her at around  2am on 10 April and she had told him she ‘didn’t want to live any more’, saying  if he ‘didn’t want to be with her, she didn’t want to be here’.

‘I  pressed  the brakes as hard as I could, I swerved to avoid.  She didn’t  even look  towards me, she just continued to walk across.’

Deliveryman John Trainer, 48

Telephone logs revealed Lena’s mother Selina  Begum had tried calling her daughter 16 times between midnight and the time of  her death, and police later found Lena had recorded messages on her  phone.

One said: ‘When I’m out of this s***** world  and up there, that’s when you will realise.’

PC Richard Roberts said of the crash scene:  ‘Street lighting was inoperative and turned off in 2011 as part of a cost saving  scheme. It was very dark.’

Recording a verdict of suicide, assistant  coroner Mark Williams said: ‘Lena had formed a relationship but it did not  appear to be any good for her or her well-being.

‘In the last few weeks of that relationship  he was calling it off and she didn’t want that. She was obsessed by him, crazy  for him, she scratched his name into her arm.

‘The impression I get is that he treated her  very poorly.’

He added: ‘There was nothing Mr Trainer could  do after Lena suddenly appeared in the headlights.

‘She has done a deliberate act of walking in  front of the van and he was unable to do anything to avoid a  collision.’

After the inquest, Lena’s mother Selina Begum  said: ‘She was a lovely girl, everyone loved her. She was my only girl, she had  two younger brothers who she looked after.

‘As a mother this has been really  traumatic.  My life is over, only when I’m dead will this be gone. She was  a bright girl studying dentistry, hoping to become a dental nurse.

‘She had wanted to do chemistry. Her death  hurts so much.’

Culled from dailymail.co.uk

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