I have always known this but knowing that there are research findings out there supporting my gut instinct just makes me feel waaay better!
- People unable to form secure relationships with parents were affected
- Infidelity frequently stems from fear of being abandoned by spouses
- Research conducted over four years and includes data from 200 couples
By Ruth Styles
You might think that a clingy partner would be least likely to stray – but you’d be wrong, according to a new study.
In fact, people who are insecure and find it hard to trust are themselves more likely to cheat.
During the study, participants were regularly asked to complete a survey that questioned their feelings towards their partner and how secure in the relationship they felt.Those who displayed needy behaviour and were anxious about being abandoned by their partner were more likely to themselves cheat.
Interestingly, the same was found to be true of the spouses of those who feared abandonment.
The findings have been attributed to another psychological theorem that deals with attachment styles, which are formed during childhood. Those who enjoyed a stable relationship with their parents develop a ‘secure’ attachment style which, as an adult, translates to being able to trust that partners will care for them and will make their wellbeing a priority.
By contrast, those who have insecure attachment styles either fear abandonment or battle to retain their independence in a bid to avoid being rejected.
According to Michelle Russell, the psychologist who led the study, those who fear abandonment are both more likely to cheat and be cheated on, as well as displaying more neediness within a relationship.
‘Attachment anxiety produces enough of a threat to intimacy to motivate spouses to seek out alternative partners,’ she explains.
Interestingly, the same wasn’t true for those with the other form of insecure attachment style – greater independence – who were found instead to be the least likely to cheat.
Culled from dailymail.co.uk