‘Yes I bullied her, she killed herself and I don’t give a ****’: Girls, 12 and 14, whose cyber-stalking ‘drove fellow pupil, 12, to suicide’ are arrested

I really don’t know what to say to this. Children everywhere have a streak of cruelty in them, probably due to an inability to empathize maybe due to immaturity (I am no child psychologist please, just guessing). Parents have a role however, in teaching children kindness or at least attempting to. When I hear stories like this I can’t help wondering how the child was raised, if at all. Is she growing up in a dysfunctional home? Is she being deprived of affection? Has she been bullied herself at some point?

Lets face it. Thousands of children across the world get bullied. Very few of them commit suicide as a direct result and those few, going from news reports, seem to be western children. What really is going on? Is it possible we just are not hearing of similar stories from other parts of the world? Or are children in less privileged circumstances made of sterner stuff? Are western children more cruel in their bullying? The questions are soooo very many.

Regardless whether she gloats over the matter, truth is, was the bullying the only reason the victim took her life or did other factors play in? What can be done to reduce incidents of bullying especially in school?

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  • Rebecca Ann  Sedwick, 12, was bullied online by a gang of up to 15 school  girls
  • She was  found dead at an abandoned Florida cement factory last month after searching  ‘What is overweight for a 12-year-old’
  • Her family  believed the abuse had stopped when Rebecca left the school
  • One of the  teens was dating Rebecca’s ex-boyfriend at the time

By  Rachel Quigley

Two girls have been arrested in connection  with the  death of a 12-year-old girl who committed suicide after  being bullied  online for almost a year.

Polk County Sheriff Grady Judd identified the  girls as Katelyn Roman, 12, and Guadalupe Shaw, 14, during a news conference  today in Winter Haven, Florida, and revealed details of a heartless Facebook  post written by Shaw on Saturday.

‘Yes IK [I know] I bullied REBECCA nd [sic]  she killed her self but IDGAF [I don’t give a f***],’ Shaw allegedly  posted.

Rebecca was ‘terrorized’ by  as many as 15  girls who ganged up on her and picked on her for months  through online message  boards and texts. She jumped to her death from a tower at an abandoned concrete  plant on September 10.

Missed: Rebecca Sedwick took her own life after being relentlessly bullied

Missed: Rebecca Sedwick took her own life after being  relentlessly bullied

 

Accused: Katelyn Roman, 12, left, and Guadalupe Shaw, 14, right, were arrested and charged with aggravated stalking in connection with the death of Rebecca SedwickAccused: Katelyn Roman, 12, left, and Guadalupe Shaw,  14, right, were arrested and charged with aggravated stalking in connection with  the death of Rebecca Sedwick

Judd said they decided  to arrest Shaw after she posted the message on Saturday.

‘We decided that we  can’t leave her out there. Who else is she going to torment, who else is she  going to harass?’ he said.

Roman was Rebecca’s former best friend, but Judd said the 14-year-old turned her against Rebecca. Other girls also stopped  being friends  with her in fear of being bullied, the sheriff said.

‘Several students corroborated stories of  both girls bullying Sedwick on  different occasions, through name-calling,  intimidation, threats to beat her up, and at least one actual physical fight,’  the sheriff said today.

He warned parents in a news conference today:  ‘Watch what your children do online. Pay attention to what your kids are doing.  Quit being their best friend and be their best parent.’

Roman and Shaw were  arrested on Monday night  and detained at the county’s juvenile center  before being released to their  parents, the Orlando Sentinel reports.

They were charged with felony aggravated  stalking.

Several media outlets have released the names  and mugshots of the young girls after law enforcement officials identified them  at a press conference today.

It is believed the bullying started when Shaw  started dating Rebecca’s ex-boyfriend.

Witnesses told investigators she sent  messages to Rebecca, calling her ugly, telling her to ‘drink bleach and die’,  and encouraging her to kill herself.

The 12-year-old was jumped in school and  repeatedly hounded in online messages or texts telling her to kill herself and  that she was ugly.

Her computer searches revealed she had  searched for ways to commit suicide and asked questions like, ‘What is overweight for a 13-year-old girl’  .

One of the Florida girl’s screensavers also  showed Rebecca with her head resting on a railroad track.

She changed one of her online screen names to  ‘That Dead Girl.’ She messaged a boy: ‘I’m jumping.’

Devastated: Rebecca Ann Sedwick, 12, pictured with her mother Tricia Norman, is believed to have jumped from an abandoned cement siloDevastated: Rebecca Ann Sedwick, 12, pictured with her  mother Tricia Norman, is believed to have jumped from an abandoned cement  silo

Tragic loss: Rebecca with her sister AmyTragic loss: Rebecca with her sister Amy

 

Aftermath: Rebecca's sister Summer (left) and a friend sign a poster as police are now investigating whether more than a dozen girls bullied Rebecca before she died on Monday nightAftermath: Rebecca’s sister Summer (left) and a friend  sign a poster after her death. Two people have now been arrested in connection  with the bullying

 

Polk County Sheriff Judd said Rebecca had  been ‘absolutely terrorized’ by the other girls.

‘We can see from what we’ve been  investigating so far that Rebecca wasn’t attacking back,’ Judd said.

‘She appeared to be beat down. She appeared  to have a defeatist attitude.  And quite frankly, the entire investigation is  exceptionally  disturbing.’

Even when her mother took Rebecca out of  school, the bullying was carried out online.

The bullying started  over a boy last year at  Crystal Lake Middle School and at one point she  was suspended for fighting with  another student – believed to be Roman.

Last December,  Rebecca was hospitalized for  three days after cutting her wrists because of what she said was bullying,  according to the sheriff.

‘When she was being bullied at Crystal Lake  Middle, she used to come home  every day and tell me how she wasn’t worth  anything, that she was ugly,  how she was stupid,’ her mother Tricia Norman said  after her death.

‘And I said, ”Baby what on earth would make  you think that? You’re the most beautiful person I know and the smartest person  I know.”’

Bullied: Rebecca was withdrawn from her elementary school for home-schooling in the aftermath of he cyberbullying being uncovered
 Bullied: Rebecca was withdrawn from her  elementary  school after being bullied and was home schooled by her mother Tricia (right)  who says her daughter’s death should be a warning to all parents to be vigilant

 

Tributes: Flowers, candles and messages are left out in memory of 12-year-old RebeccaTributes: Flowers, candles and messages are left out in  memory of 12-year-old Rebecca

 

Later, after Rebecca  complained that she had  been pushed in the hallway and that another girl wanted to fight her, Rebecca’s  mother began home-schooling her, Judd  said.

This fall, Rebecca  started at a new school,  Lawton Chiles Middle Academy, and loved it,  Judd said. But the bullying  continued online.

‘She put on a perfect, happy face. She never  told me,’ Tricia Norman told the Lakeland Ledger.

‘I never had a clue. I mean, she told me last  year when she was being bullied, but not this year, and I have no idea  why.’

Once police checked her cell phone they  discovered that the bullying had not stopped, especially on Kik Messenger,  Instagram and Ask.fm.

‘They would tell her she’s ugly, stupid,  nobody liked her go kill herself,” Ms Norman said.

She has started a Facebook page to try to  fight back against online bullies, called Rebecca Sedwick  Against Bullying.

Ms Norman told 10  News she  was inspired to start it after reading her daughter’s journal.

In it, Rebecca had written: ‘Every day more  and more kids kill themselves  because of bullying. How many lives have to be  lost until people realize words do matter?’

Ms Norman wants online bullies to face  harsher consequences, and begged other  young victims to stay strong and seek  help, adding: ‘Don’t ever give up, like Becca did.’

 

One thought on “‘Yes I bullied her, she killed herself and I don’t give a ****’: Girls, 12 and 14, whose cyber-stalking ‘drove fellow pupil, 12, to suicide’ are arrested

  1. If you look at the photos of the leader of the stalking group, she is dressed as a militant. Even her boyfriend (if it’s the same one) latches onto her cruelty. If this is the guy the victim lost, then good riddens. Who, other than 80 year-old male tourists, wears socks with flip-flops?

    At the age of 12 the hormones aren’t functioning well and being part of the group is very important. Losing a boyfriend was bad enough. Being attacked afterwards would be even worse. For it to continue after moving-unbearable. She probably thought it would never end. And, it probably never would have.

    Nope, this has nothing to do with any other country. This is USA bullying-the equivalent of pushing someone against a loose rock at the edge of a cliff.

    Attempted murder….

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