Single and over 40? Quit beating yourself up. Contrary to what everybody might think, chances are you are not just being unduly picky, irresponsible, or difficult (especially if you are a guy) lack of pay is may be taking a major toll on your ability to settle down. It does, afterall, take more than love to sustain a marriage. The following article examines how the size of one’s pockets have contributed in no mean way to more and more people staying single for longer in the UK
By LUCY OSBORNE
Job insecurity and lower wages are leaving blue collar workers disillusioned at the prospect of having meaningful relationships, according to the researchers at University of Virginia and University of Harvard.
Sociologist Sarah Corse, who conducted the study said: ‘Working-class people with insecure work and few resources, little stability and no ability to plan for a foreseeable future become concerned with their own survival and often become unable to imagine being able to provide materially and emotionally for others.
‘Insecure work changes peoples’ non-work lives,’ she said. ‘Marriage is becoming a distinctive social institution marking middle-class status.’
The findings revealed educated middle-class workers are better able to recover from the destabilising effects of insecure work than the working class, and therefore can find stability in relationships.
Harvard sociologist Jennifer Silva noted people who are living in an unsecure and unstable situation have difficulty being trustful of possible partners because of the risk of betrayal.
They also find it difficult to meet material or financial obligations and may feel that the emotional and psychological commitment required by marriage is too great a demand on top of other challenges.
She added: ‘Marriage has lost its relevance as a marker of adulthood.’
People with college degrees, however, tend to work in stable jobs with better incomes allowing for the emotional and material commitment of marriage and having children within marriage.
Middle- and upper-middle class people, as a result, express high expectations for their marriages, centring on self-fulfilment, deeply engaged parenting by both parents and psycho-emotional awareness.
The participants included those married, single, divorced, cohabitating and widowed, as well as being biological and adoptive parents and non-parents.
Culled from dailymail.co.uk