“I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence” – Actress Chika Ike Opens Up

Thank God she had the sense to get out so she can live to possibly try her hands at love again with someone else.

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Actress Chike Ike pens an open letter to her fans, opening up about the physical abuse she suffered in the hands of the man she called her husband for five years. Find her story below…

The past three years has been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my self esteem. its been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I’ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve   that there’s really no right time because every second of the day,lives are being lost due to domestic violence.  I was a victiim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.

Growing up as a girl I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block. Before I got married, I had been through some relationships and no man ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it.

As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions. After every beating he would plead, cry and say it won’t happen again. Again I thought it was love and made excuses for him.  Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it.  I started loosing my self pride, self esteem , self worth, and most painfully I lost  a pregnancy. It was when I almost lost my life in the process that I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.

I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story, I guess that’s why they are ignorant.  I was 20yrs old and  very naïve to the world when I got married .“ They said I married for money“ LOL. I was married to a corporate guy, who had a 9-5 job in a bank, lived in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe.  So do the maths! I married for love. I did a traditional wedding, a white wedding and a court wedding. So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever.  For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it would all change. But the last straw that broke the camel’s back was during a heated argument when he threw a glass  jug at my face. I dodged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.

Am not saying  this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and beliefs. I am also not saying this to discourage people from falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.

Culled from Linda Ikeji’s blog

 

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